Falling in love: a matter of chemistry?
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I myself as the student of chemistry ,today I am trying to co-relates chemistry with view to love (the basis of life ), let's see, how I get succeed in enumerating some ideas which are based on my reality and facts.




Sex, it's all about pleasure and romantic basis for life these days, isn't it? I think that sex is romance that is the essence of a relationship. Without romance your love life will not exist. Romance is the true identity of your love. It brings out your true self and helps you to be as a better lover, husband and partner. Romance is a celebration of the life you live as part of a couple. It springs naturally and originates from within our heart. It makes us things that we possibly couldn't have imagined to do otherwise. It shows us who we are and reminds our role that is to be played in a relationship. Romance is not responsibility but it is caring about our responsibilities towards our lover and partner. Romance is the appreciation of two people who are celebrating the lucky coincidence that they found each other.We're all now fully willing and able to disengage our feelings from casual encounters; primed and ready to give and receive great sex for sex's sake, never mind the complications of falling in love.
It's a nice theory, but how many of us haven't felt what we thought were the stirrings of bona fide love when, with the benefit of hindsight, we're only too willing to acknowledge some disastrous past affair as a lust-filled aberration rather than the one true love we had then imagined?
for example Take my friend namrata , who spent two 3 month at the beck and call of a man who, from her infidelities to her lies, was never going to make me happy in the long term. "I suppose I thought I was in love with her, she says now, almost in disbelief, "but really, if I'm honest, it was about sex."
And it's not only male. I've spent many long nights talking female friends through their despair as they've fallen head over heels for feckless women who do them both proud in the sack but rarely anywhere else.It seems that, try as we might and as unfashionable as it may currently be, many of us are still unable to separate really good sex from the idea that we're falling in love.
"Oxytocin" is the one-word answer from psychosexual therapist Paula Hall, of relationship counseling group Relate - It's the "bonding chemical" that is released during sex, and the amount released increases with the quality and quantity of the sex: more orgasms equal more oxytocin and, therefore, more of a sense of closeness, all of which play a big part in that feeling of being in love.
"Also, sex is a very intimate act," she says, particularly really good sex. "You're doing all the right things for love: you're being close to someone, you're being vulnerable, you're caring for their needs, they're caring for your needs, and you're communicating. Plus, you're releasing oxytocin. It's no wonder, really."
All well and good in the bedroom, but not so good if the person you have great sex/fall in love with is not right for you outside of it. The chemistry of attraction that initially draws us in goes a long way to helping us get our emotional and physical wires crossed. And while a one-off fantastic sexual encounter may not have you swearing undying love, it will probably have you returning for more - and, before you know it, you think you're in love.
I feel that Great sex "is more than just about orgasm". I think truly great sex doesn't come along every day. It's often something that is established and built upon within an already loving relationship, where a deepening emotional intimacy and understanding leads to a better physical one, too. It can take away your breath, along with any sense of reason. However, the love that sustains a long-term relationship is a long way from the spark of attraction, no matter how big.
If you're feeling confused about its context, perhaps it would be better to give your passionate new "love" some distance and those hormones a chance to get back on an even keel before any declarations are made.
When couples move into a "stable relationship" phase, other hormones take over, (Chemistry World reports. ) But one psychologist warned the hormone shift is wrongly seen as negative.
It was found that Levels of these chemical messengers (oxytoin) were much higher in those who were in the early stages of romance. So that acute and rapid flow of hormones take place just at the sexy touch, as their production is vigorous. But in people who had been with their partners for between one and two years these so-called "love molecules" had gone, even though the relationship had survived.
The scientists found that the lust molecule was replaced by the so-called "cuddle hormone" - oxytocin - in couples who had been together for several years.
Oxytocin, is a chemical that induces labour and milk-production in new and pregnant mothers.
Donatella Marazziti, who led the research team, said: "If lovers swear their feelings to be ever-lasting, the hormones tell a different story.
So that release of hormones is stimulated by thinking and feeling power of an individual. It was also found that levels of a chemical messenger called nerve growth factor (NGF) increased with romantic intensity. More the romantic more is the level.
Actually while talking to its chemistry, the nonapeptide oxytocin is a posterior pituitary hormones long recognized as being concerned with contractions of uterus. Recent works indicates that this (relatively) tiny peptide has wide ranging effects on the pleasure of social and sexual interaction of mammals – from coition to the cuddling of offspring and getting along with one's neighbors. Scientist has waxed enthusiastic and even poetic; it has been called the 'satisfaction hormone' and is said to "usher in joy".
The researchers said: "Whether more nerve growth is needed in the early stage of romance because of all the new experiences that are engraved into the brain, or whether it has a second, as yet unknown function in the chemistry of love, remains to be explored."
Michael Gross, a bio-chemist and science writer who has studied the latest findings, said: "It shows that different hormones are present in the blood when people are acutely in love while there is no evidence of the same hormones in people who have been in a stable relationship for many years.
"In fact the love molecules can disappear as early as 12 months after a relationship has started to be replaced by another chemical glue that keeps couples together."
He added: "To any romantically inclined chemist, it should be deeply satisfying to be able to prove that chemical messengers communicate romantic feeling between humans."
The chemical communication system used to
Attract mates involves not only the overt chemical signals but
Also indirectly a great deal of chemistry in the emitter.
There are some of the steps of love relation that have great love with the chemistry firstly, attraction physical and emotional. Secondly intimacy, thirdly romance, forth passion and the last stage is commitment.
Believe me love is worth the effort. All the best!